Daily Tales of the Sober Tea Totaler

Hello fellow Tea Totalers! Welcome! Enjoy your favorite tea and come along with me for a little while!

I've been part of Blogger for a very long time but didn't always post.  I also created a WordPress site during CoVid.  My Sober Tea Totaler blog is the most consistent I've been! This is a whole other topic about "being consistent" which will come in another post!!

I've been sober for 14 months now.  I've mentioned an internet site that has helped greatly but this past week, a couple of things happened.  The first thing was that I had connected with a fellow person and we'd agreed to become accountable friends.  Sadly, it looks like they may of fell off the so-called wagon. I thought about them all week, called and messaged, but no answer.  I was concerned and finally got a message that we would talk tomorrow, which didn't happen.  I'm a pretty quiet person and didn't want to be a bother but did want them to  know that I am in no way judging.  I am not a judge.  This led me to thinking about the slippery slope we live when it comes to alcohol.

The second thing was that  I attended a zoom recovery meeting.  This was when things became pretty rough for me.  First of all, I admit, Zoom has been a challenge for me in all respects.  I never seem to have enough band-width for it to work so it comes and goes.  I struggle with technology.  This time, the universe aligned and I was able to stay in the meeting.    Long story short, there was discussion around how people "pick and hurt themselves".  Some were very graphic.  I had to do a lot of processing over the night and next day because I have had a behavior like this, for freaking years due to always having to keep my feeling to myself.  Growing up just after WW11, we were to taught to be stoic, seen and not heard.  I hid all of my feelings which erupted in headaches and stomach aches and later led to excessive drinking.  I've come so far and am so happy that Alcohol is no longer reeking havoc in my life.

So now, I'm deciding if this site is a  good place for me and is it helping?  One thing I do know is, my sobriety is the most important and I'm making it happen! 

Thanks for reading! Talk to you soon! xxx   

Daily Tales of The Sober Teatotaler!

 Hello fellow TeaTotalers! Hope you're having a wonderful Sunday!

I've always found walking the best medicine for not only my physical health, but for my mental health too.  This morning I saw an elderly gentleman, obviously physically challenged, walking the path.  I've actually talked to him once before and he said he walks daily.  He's very inspirational and reminded me how important walking is to me.

The greatest part of the walk is I'm by the ocean the whole way!  I look at the boats.  There's a sailboat called Freya for sale.  I question myself.  Do I really want to learn how to sail so I can explore all the beautiful waters here?  Am I too old? Maybe this is the thing I need to sink my teeth into! The trouble is boats can be a leaky bucket for finances and not to mention, all the upkeep!!  It would be amazing because there's incredible places to sail here. 

It's a beautiful fall.  I invested in a hammock!  The plan is to move it onto the front porch, and I think it's almost time.

Take care, dear friends! Have a great week! Talk soon.

Daily Tales of The Sober Tea Totaler

 Hi dear Sober Tea Totaler followers!

I'm gripping onto the last days of warmer weather here on the beautiful southwest coast of B.C.  It is an absolutely beautiful place to live with many accesses to the ocean.

We were able to watch an otter family have an afternoon nap on the dock! They were not bothered by us at all.  As per usual, I hadn't brought my phone along and missed a photo op! 

Thinking back, I've tried to get away from alcohol for a very long time.  I was saturated with it, growing up in an alcoholic family which included my parents and all the surrounding family.  I was the oldest in the family and became responsible for my two younger sisters when I was very young.  I didn't really have a childhood.  We were feral and didn't have much supervision.

I had a big supply of alcohol and started drinking when I was 12 years old.  By the time I was 18, I admit to being an alcoholic.  I met my unsuspecting husband, married him at age 19 and we moved over one thousand miles away to start building our life.  While married, I continued to drink but got very busy with working, clearing land, building a log house and raising my two sons. 

Since finding the Women for Sobriety on-line support group, it's became so clear that many women are struggling with alcohol abuse.  I find it very sad.  My youngest sister suffered desperately through her life.  I decided to get rid of alcohol for good, when she passed away with a horrible cancer after years of substance abuse. 

Hope you had a wonderful day! Take care and we'll talk soon! xxx

Daily Tales of The Sober Tea-Totaler

 Hello sweet tea-totaler followers!  So grateful to have you here with me. 

Canadians just celebrated Thanksgiving.  I was overjoyed to spend it with my son and his partner.  There's so much to be grateful for and as well, I understand the outside world is looking pretty chaotic these days.  I have an incredibly abundant life.  Just one thing I would change. Being closer to both of my sons.  It is as it but seriously, I feel quite lonely and honestly, worry about being all by myself.  I'm heading for the middle of my seventieth decade with time to evaluate past events.  

I've accumulated over 400 days of sobriety.  I'm peeling back the layers.  Authenticity is the goal.  Anything that isn't authentic, goes by the wayside. 

I hope you find some things to be grateful for.  Even if it's a tiny little thing like the light coming through the window.  Let me know how you're all doing!  I'd love to hear from you! Much love! xxx

Daily Diaries of The Sober Tea Totaler

 It was a beautiful, windy day!  Got out for a walk and I'll share a picture!  It's Canadian Thanksgiving and I'm very excited to have my youngest Son and his fiancé, Sarah come for a visit.  In years gone by, I cooked big family dinners but it's a lot different these days.  I'm keeping it simple so I can enjoy my time with these two.  Sadly, I don't live close to my sons, so this is really special. 

For my Canadian friends, have a wonderful Thanksgiving.  We've got so much to be grateful for! Lots of love! xxx

Daily Tales of The Sober Tea Totaler

 Hi trusty followers!  So happy to have you here.  The weather has been outstanding and literally sets me on fire.  The yard is looking so good.  We've got worms everywhere! Just love it.  I'm back on my walking program and installed the free walking app for tracking my steps.  Counted up the days and it's 410 sober days!  

I just listened to one of my favorite podcasts, and she was mentioning that some of us have "huge guardian angels" and they are "shape shifters!"  I'm intrigued because I met my Guardian Angel when I was two years old.  Mom had gone into have my sister who is two years younger than me. We're winter Aquarians!  I believe I was left alone for a long time in a very cold and dark room.  I honestly thought I was going to die but my guardian angel showed up, a very bright light and told me, I'd be ok.  

So, I'm always wondering when I see people, if they are in fact, my guardian!!!  I had an experience in the Mall the other day as I walked to the post office.  A very tall, younger man dressed like an Australian cowboy approached me.  He had a black hat, long Australian Outback coat, black boots and a black hat. We made eye contact and he touched his hat and said "Ma;am"! I damn near passed out.  Was he my guardian angel in diguise!!  Made my happy day!

Daily Tales of the Sober Tea Totaler

 Happy October!!

 I love this orange month! I am sorry for not being present here.  I want to commit to this blog.  I just survived, what I'm going to say, is the most difficult time of my life.  It went on for years.  My mom died when she had just turned 79, in 2012, leaving behind my Dad, who was used to her doing everything.  I lived just up the road so I basically became his primary caregiver for 12 years, he passed away in 2024 at 94.

Long story short, I was left a giant mess because of my role as Executor.  Dad didn't do anything after Mom died.  His place fell into disrepair and he died.  My youngest sister passed away six months later.  My living sister and I were left to pick up the pieces and it wasn't pretty.

There were things in the closet from many years ago.  We had to take truckloads of stuff to the Thrift Stores.  The worst is yet to come.

The real estate plummeted and the trailer park he owned his home in was for sale.  We paid for the pad rental, heating and miscellaneous items for over two years.  Finally, an interested buyer showed up but requested a building inspection.  Bad news!  Inspection failed. Couldn't get house insurance.  I decided to call the Trailer Park dealer that had originally sold them the trailer and begged him to take it off our hands.  He bought the place for a very small amount of money.  

The place is gone.  The burden of looking after it is gone.  I'm finally free after years of responsibility.  I pray a lot, always have.  I believe I've healed ancient ancestral trauma that has plagued me all my life.  I healed it and it took every ounce of everything in me, to do it.

I had to hire a lawyer and then an accountant.  This all comes out of the tiny inheritance.  Probate was $3,000.00.  I watched money got down the drain.  The lawyer will set up the account to give the dead sisters, children her part.  The accountant will do the last income tax for Dad.  We might have to pay taxes.  It's unbelievable how much money the CRA gets.

I cannot believe I will soon be able to put this all behind me.  It's been a nightmare.  The good news is, through it all, I'm still a sober tea totaler and looking so forward to pursuing some hobbies.  The worry is gone.  Every day I give thanks for all the adversity and challenges and difficulties I have in my life.  I look for joy.  

Thanks for reading!  Enjoy a cup of your favorite tea and have a wonderful day! See you on the other side!!